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In just one week I will see my enboifriend for the first time in six months. We have assessed the risks of travelling to see each other during a global pandemic and decided that after spending half of our whole relationship apart, we’re going to be together on our anniversary. I’m super excited to see them, but I’m not without some anxiety. Mostly because my depression means that my sex drive is low right now, and I’m worried that they might not love me if I’m not such a horny slut.Read More →

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Instead of panicking about the fact it’s August and it feels like this year is slipping through my fingers, I’m trying to instead celebrate the fact that I made it through the mental illness shit show and exhaustion of the last month. But before I can properly start the eighth (eighth!!) month of 2020, I have a few pieces of sex positive shit from July to share with y’all.Read More →

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Image courtesy of Mrs Fever Welcome to Elust 132– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #133? Start with the rules, come back July 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Bisexuality, Shame and The Kiss That Never Wa Can I touch you like that? I’m Not A Very Good Masturbator ~ Featured Posts by our Guest Editor ~Read More →

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The idea for this post arose during a Sex Ed Uncensored discussion – I’m getting a lot of content from Submissive Feminist’s weekly Twitter chat! We were talking about how you’d react to a new partner wanting to use sex toys during your first hook-up, and my initial answer was an enthusiastic ‘YES PLEASE I’M SO DOWN FOR THIS’. I managed to entirely miss out the nuance and questions you need to ask your partner before whipping out a vibrator (or a whip!). So, how should you approach discussing sex toys if you want to use them in a first time hook-up?Read More →

How can I be a trans ally?

After some sex-negative censorship and some super fun transphobia, I now create advice how not to be a dick to trans and non-binary people over on Patreon. Learn how to respect folks who don't use the pronouns you expect them to - and why you shouldn't assume anyone's pronouns in the first place.

Check out my advice!