A genderqueer person in a hospital gown looking up and receiving a pelvic exam.

I am super excited to present today’s guest blog. Kelvin Sparks is an intersex trans man whose pronouns are he/him/his, and he runs a brilliant sex blog full of toy reviews and sex-education-y essays. You can also find him on Twitter, where he says clever and insightful sex positive things things – which have recently included the importance of inclusive language around reproductive healthcare. As a cis woman, while I feel helpless about the attack on abortion rights just now, I also recognise my own privilege when it comes to being included in these conversations. Because of this, I reached out to Kelvin to askRead More →

A black girl wearing a pink ball gag, collar and kitten ears. Drawing.

I have kink adventure planned for the coming weekend, so (consent pending) I’m going to get to make-out with two incredibly attractive humans. This piece of smut is dedicated to one of them, in the hope that it will remind her that she’s said she would do (consensual) evil, revenge things to make me wet when we next play together. It’s about a BDSM-y ritual that a couple undertake before their night at a kink club, and contains a little bit of humiliation play and pet play.Read More →

Blue-green glittery dildo suction-cupped to a laptop. Photo.

Earlier today I shared how sex positive structure in my week helps me deal with my mental illness, but this evening proof of how much sex and sex blogging impacts my life in the form of a new sparkly dildo. Apparently opening boxes containing shiny new sex toys an transforms me into a happy, excited and passionate Quinn – and it feels really good to be her.Read More →

A photo of someone with short hair and a stripy sweater facing away from the camera and looking up at a concept board of ideas and plans pinned to the wall.

It’s Mental Health Awareness Week (and Mental Health Awareness Month I think?) so obviously I’ve been struggling with my own depression, anxiety and suicidal ideation this week. Mental illness impacts literally every element of my life, and I am still learning how to manage it and take care of myself. Perhaps the most surprising thing that helps is creating sex positive structure in my week. Content note for discussion of mental illness and anti-depressants.Read More →

A blue take-away coffee cup and a magazine. Photo.

Photo courtesy of My Controlled Ascent Welcome to Elust 118– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #119? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!   ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ I have daddy issues Processing Emotions about Polyamory Mirror Masturbation ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ V is for view Not Alone ~Readers Choice from SexbytesRead More →