Today is my second blogiversary! I’ve been sex blogging for two years now, and today I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has supported on my journey so far. The last two years have been amazing, and while I never thought I would become a sex writer I absolutely love it.
Content note for discussion of depression and suicidal ideation. I also talk about my strained-to-potentially-abusive relationship with my parents.
An organised sex blogger might have a blogiversary giveaway to celebrate two years of sex blogging… but I have not. The last couple of months have really hard for me, and a part of me is just proud that I’m still writing. My current approach to my blog is fairly disorganised – mostly because I try to keep sex blogging as my ‘safe place’. I started my sex blog two years ago during a period of awful depression, and since then it’s been the healthiest coping mechanism I have for my mental illness.
I love writing about sex. Looking over the goals I set for myself in my one year blogiversary post last year, I feel like I haven’t done even half of the things I was planning to do, but I can see how much I have grown. While I’m undoubtedly a better writer than I was a year ago, I like to think I’m also becoming a better person. I’m no longer scared of how much I will change in the years to come: I want to keep growing and changing and learning. In fact, I’m excited for the people I love to meet the person I’m going to become.
My sex blogging highlights of the last year include speaking at Eroticon, creating audio porn, writing for The Big Fling, and putting myself and my words out there more. I’m still dealing with the throwing-up-with-anxiety fear that I’m going to be outed again. I’m not ashamed of being an ethical slut or sex-positive feminist – in fact I often go out of the way to provocatively not hide these things when I think people’s world view need to be challenged by who I am. What’s harder is establishing boundaries with my parents… I’m very much still working on that (in a way they’re not working on their mild homophobia).
I’ve had some amazing sex in the last year – enough that I’m pretty sure the stream of sex blogging ideas isn’t going to dry up any time soon. I want to keep writing filth that turns folks on, and being vulnerable as I talk about my relationships, mental health, and fucking adventures in a way that I hope will encourage other people to talk more openly about sex. Maybe my words won’t change the world, but I will continue to follow my head, heart and cunt and keep sharing my adventures with you all.
I’m really proud of the things I’ve done and the things I’ve written in two years of sex blogging. As I said last year, I am still very much on queer street and trying to find my feet – in my life, and as a sex blogger. But I’m having so much fun, and I can’t wait to see where my blogging adventures will take me next. I hope you’ll join me on those adventures.
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If you’ve liked any of my work over the last year, it would mean a lot if you would buy me a blogiversary coffee. The money will go towards buying celebratory hot chocolate and a protective screen so I can spend more time writing filth in coffee shops.
Quinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co.