Sharing sex positive shit: March 2020

Desk space featuring laptop and coffee cup on top of a pile of papers. Photo.

Being that March 2020 has been a shit show, it’s not surprising that I didn’t spend a lot of time reading sex-positive content. However, I do have a few posts that I wanted to share, because sex bloggers are really resilient and have still created some sexy shit that definitely deserves a shout out.

Titles are links, so please click away and check out these awesome posts and podcasts. 

Sugarbutch Chronicles – Rest Is Important, You’re Right It Isn’t Fair, and Other Things I Need To Hear Right Now

You know when you read something that says exactly the thing you need to hear? I almost cried while this blog post because Sinclair Sexsmith so perfectly captures the difference between ‘ice cream in bed’ self-care and ‘actively breaking unhealthy patterns and habits’ self-care. They made me feel VERY SEEN.

“It is okay to be in pajamas that have been worn for just a few too many days such that you would feel guilty shoving your lover’s face down into them.”

Girl on the Net – Fuck me twice: How to clone your dick

I love almost all of GOTN’s blog posts, but this one was exceptional because of her fucking way with words. Her writing is explicit and evocative and almost visceral (see: “full-throated (and full-cunted) fucking”) in a way that’s really hot to me. And obviously I now really want a clone of my enboifriend’s dick.

“Straight-faced, wet-cunted, smoulderingly disgraceful filth.”

The Dildorks – Episode 182: Jokester Kinksters

Kate and Bex have been put out some especially brilliant podcast episodes recently, but I think this one was my favourite. They talked to guest Carter Brûlée about playful kink their conversation gave me so many ideas for giggly, playful sex. This (paraphrased) quote from Bex Talks Sex in particular gave me lots of feels:

“I think what I love about the silly, playful energy to kink is that you’re able to hold both of those things as true. You’re able to be like: look at all of the horrible stuff I’m making you go through and also lol, you’re adorable.” 

The Overthinker’s Guide To Sex – Against the “flow”: Why sex is better with a few interruptions

Full confession: I’m so happy that Franki Cookney has started a substack newsletter because her writing is incredible and her takes on fucking always make me think. I love the idea she explores in March’s newsletter, and totally agree that the idea that you’ll ‘ruin the mood’ by stopping to drink tea/find a sex toy/go to the bathroom comes from a very cisheteronormative place.

“But I now recognise that where there is flow, there are also ebbs and these ebbs can feel really good. Plus, without pauses there’s no space for new ideas. There’s no room to be inspired, to bounce off each other, to switch things up.”

Molly’s Daily Kiss – Honour Bondage: Up against the wall

When I tweeted excitedly about this post, Molly commented that she’d thought I would like it. She was right: I really, really did. Molly’s non-compliance kink really turns me on, and this post is just pushes so many of my buttons. Her super hot words also inspired me to write about a filthy initiation fuck.

“He fucks me again. He beats me again. Each time the beating are slightly harder than the time before and each time my body aches as he leaves me empty and desperate. He does it again and again.”

The Smutlancer – Tips for Working From Home While Dealing with Anxiety

Back in the Smutlancer Spotlight is Kayla Lords, because this post was so needed amid all the COVID-19 chaos. While I haven’t been very good at taking the excellent advice she gives, it was still super helpful to read. And I love Kayla for many reasons, but even more so because she said Fuck Extra Productivity.

“You are not a bad person because you’re procrastinating. You’re not the worst freelancer ever because you didn’t return an email or phone call in the same day you received it.”

Sitting on her face so they can tease her dick
Raspberry nipple

1 Comment

  1. Sometimes advice isn’t meant to be taken — only absorbed so it’s in our memory banks when we can use it. 💜

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