I’m having fun exploring my gender presentation. Of course, gender expression doesn’t have to equate gender identity, but since coming out as trans I have been playing with a more masculine gender presentation. I’ve almost entirely given up wearing knickers in favour of boxers – but my knickers have not been entirely discarded. There’s something very gender affirming about packing with lace panties…
Packing, for those of you who don’t know, is wearing padding or a phallic object in the front of underwear to give the appearance of having a penis. Packing is commonly practiced by trans men and transmasculine folks, and if you want to read more about it you should check out Kelvin Sparks‘ blog.
I don’t pack very often, but when I do I end up utterly enchanted by the bulge in my boxers. While I don’t have much gender dysphoria about my junk, I do experience gender euphoria when someone goes down on me like they’re sucking a dick or when I look down at my bulge and feel like I have a factory installed cock.
As I’m always a fan of a little gender-fuckery, I love the incongruity of wearing boxers when I’m wearing skirts, or packing with red lace panties. I love this photo too – a year ago I might have tried to take a photo of me spreading my labia with two fingers while I pulled a pair of lace knickers to the side. Today I’m using a similar motion to share with you all a peak of my bulge: I can’t stop smiling.
Lingerie is for Everyone is run by the brilliant Violet Fawkes and Kink of the Week is run by the incredible Molly Moore. Y’all should go check them out.
Want to see me more photos of me exploring my gender?

Quinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex writer with vaginismus. He’s a slut and a sex nerd who writes about his adventures in trying to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks.
Clever shot, Quinn. Fun to see the lady peeking through the boxers
Hi Elliott – thank you for the comment! I just want to point out that while I am using lace panties as part of my gender presentation here, I’m actually genderqueer and I’d prefer you not to use the word ‘lady’ to describe me.
Love the lace, the boxers, and the bulge! Great pic!
I love this moment of genderfuckery and the red lace is a very welcome and sexy surprise! It’s great to hear you’re having fun exploring!
I think, writing my own piece for KOTW affirmed for me I like lace on any gender way more than I like it on me… and hidden lace like this is very sexy.
Everything about this post made me smile
Molly
This made me beam the biggest smile, I can feel how happy this makes you, it oozes off the screen! And this gives me so many *feels*.
And factory installed always makes me giggle, I’m going to have to borrow this term, if that’s ok.