Who am I?
I’m Quinn Rhodes, a queer sex blogger and fuck-positive content creator. Welcome to my blog, where I’m going to attempt to encourage more people to talk openly about sex, sexuality and enthusiastic consent – while also exploring who I am as a sex-positive slut.
I’m a queer, disabled, baby trans, afab sex blogger (pronouns: ze/hir) in my early twenties who dreams of changing the world with my words. I’m an ethical slut and polyamorous feminist, and a sex nerd who’s often found running late and falling in love. I can often be found frequenting independent book shops and wearing cat ears. I struggle with mental illness and vaginismus.
I write about finding my feet in kink, sex, feminism and mental health on this blog, mixing queer, progressive erotica with essays about my depression. I also create audio porn, and take a lot of pride in the fact I can now call myself a sex writer.
I’m not a qualified sex educator, just an enthusiastic pervert. I’m also still learning, and undoubtedly fucking up. This is – obviously – an 18+ site, so please leave now if you’re under the legal age to access adult materials where you live. If you’re looking for reliable information about sex and relationships, please check out Scarleteen or Bish.
How I became Quinn
I’ve been sex blogging for two years now, since a life-changing night when I decided that I would pull myself through an awful depression bump by starting a sex blog. When I started my sex blog, I could still count on one hand the number of orgasms I’d had in my life. Before the end of 2017, I had written more than I ever had for any one project before, made friends in the sex positive community, and met another sex blogger in person for the first time.
In 2018, I came out as queer to the people in my real life, went to Eroticon for the first time, and made a Big Life Change because sex blogging had reminded me how much I love writing. I also got outed as a sex blogger, and made the decision to face my fear and continue blogging – albeit under a different pseudonym. Since then I’ve been to sex parties, swingers clubs, and have had all manner of brilliant, kinky adventures. So far 2019 started with a threesome and has taken me back to Eroticon as a speaker.
Sex blogging has changed my life dramatically. Today in my ‘every day’ life, I’m a university student who keeps finding ways to put sex-positivity into her essays and assignments. I also offer my real-life friends vibrators a lot. As a sex-blogging superhero, I spend a lot of time trying not to show the strangers who are sitting next to me on the train photos of tits on my laptop while I write on my way to see my sex-positive friends up and down the UK.
My life is frequently ridiculous and almost unbelievable, but I fucking love it. (I also love fucking.)
Why I write about sex
Sex is fascinating… but I spent a long time not only scared of sex, but terrified of my own body. It took a long time, a lot of fan-fiction, and the discovery that it is ok to like girls to get me to a place where I was ready to start exploring the fact I might want to have sex.
Because it took so long to be comfortable with the idea of having sex, I am extremely passionate about other folks being able to access better sex education resources. I want my blog to help encourage others to explore their sexuality, to talk to their partner or partners about sex, and to not feel ashamed of their desires. I think that it does, at least a little bit.
We live in a world that shames women for having sex, takes ‘straight’ as the default sexuality, and assumes a strict gender binary. My aim is for my writing to add to the accurate, sex-positive, pleasure-focussed information available for people of all sexualities and genders. I also do my best to create erotica that includes explicit, enthusiastic consent and queer and trans characters.
What you’ll find on On Queer Street
I’m very much still on queer street* in that I’m exploring my kinks, my feelings about casual sex and intimacy, and the way I want to do relationships. My vaginismus means that any kind of vaginal penetration – especially PIV sex – currently seems like an impossible dream, and I still struggle with dysphoria around my body. I’m working on understanding and being comfortable with my body, and I’m also unlearning years of internalised misogyny.
While I hope my writing here will educate, inform, encourage exploration, make folks curious (and/or horny), and work to remove the stigma around sex, sexuality, kink and non-monogamy, at its heart its my journey as I learn and explore. I’ve discovered that I’m definitely a kinky switch, learnt how to make myself come, and worked out that I’m not cis. It’s these stories that I share here, in the form of personal essays about jealousy, boundaries, and self-dating, and political-ish essays about the importance of intersectional feminism.
I am absolutely more of a slut for words than for cock or cunt – which I’m sure is achingly evident through the filth I post on my blog. If you’re new to my blog and want to know where to start, I recommend you check out the pieces I’ve linked throughout this about me page for insightful and reflective musings on exploring BDSM and polyamory. If you’re here for the filth, right now I’m especially proud of ‘Baking, brattiness, and punishment butt sex‘, ‘Panties or petit four?‘ and ‘Guiding your fingers inside‘.
*My blog’s name comes from the old English slang phrase ‘on queer street’, which would be used to describe someone in difficulty or uncertainty of some kind. It was coined before the word ‘queer’ was first used as a synonym for ‘gay as fuck’, but it very much works for me with today’s meaning of the word too.
Awards and achievements
I’m super proud of everything I’ve achieved since starting my sex blog: I never thought I’d be fulfilling my childhood dream of being a writer by writing about sex.
In 2019 I spoke at Eroticon, the London-based sex writing conference in March. I presented a session called ‘Is representation in erotica dirty?’ – which was mentioned in ETO Magazine in April. I was also a finalist in the UK Blogging Awards’ sex blog category. I was featured in Kinkly’s Top LGBTQ, Erotica, and Sex Toy Review Blogs of 2019
Perhaps most excitingly, in 2019 I was ranked number three on Molly’s Daily Kiss’ Top 100 Sex Blogs list. I still have no idea how that happened.
In 2018, I was ranked number twenty on Molly Daily Kiss’ Top 100 Sex Blogs list. I also secured bylines for The Big Fling and Godemiche, and guest blogged at Coffee and Kink and Molly’s Daily Kiss. In 2017 I started my sex blog, and was paid for my words for the first time when I wrote a guest blog for Girl on the Net. I still have the £20 note with which I was paid for that piece.
Audio porn project
In May 2019, I launched my audio porn project. It’s absolutely my favourite part of my current sex blogging adventures, because I am huge fan of aural filth and I am excited to be creating accessible smut. Please check out all the audio porn I’ve created so far.
Blog character cast
I am a solo poly slut – which means (in my simplified explanation) that I’m my own primary partner. I am the person who I’m building my life around, but there are lots of other wonderful humans in my life. The ones I write about here get nick-names to help preserve their anonymity – though if follow me on Twitter you might be able to figure out who they are anyway.
Quinn Rhodes – Yours truly, queer sex blogging superhero in training. Ze/hir.
NBae – My enboifriend, a very cute queerdo who I have somehow ended up dating. Comedian, writer, and occasional poet; nerd, perv, and feminist who looks great in stockings. Them/they.
The Nerd – My newest play partner, who is a giant nerd and even bigger pervert. BDSM erotica writer, rigger and porn performer. He/him.
Andro-babe crush – My long distance play partner, who I wish was less long distance. Non-binary, polyamorous, queer writer, speaker, and educator who makes me feel like a goddam queen. They/them.
J – My fuck-buddy with whom I was having experimental kinky sex when I first started writing my blog. Now a dear friend who I have regular-ish sex with, . He/him.
The Doctor – My play partner and close friend. A queer, kinky, polyamorous, intersectional feminist who I would do literally anything for. She/her.
Mr N. – My play partner and the Doctor’s primary partner. Perverted sadist who gives excellent aftercare and who I’d love to see in a dress. He/him.
The Writer – A play partner and a friend-with-flirting-and-fucking who I’m no longer playing with. A cruelly playful sadist who I hope to one day see wearing eyeliner when he fucks me. He/him.
If you have a question that I haven’t answered here, please get in touch! You can find details of how to contact me here.