Who am I?
I’m Quinn Rhodes. Welcome to my blog, the sex-positive haven where I try to carry out my mission to encourage more open conversations about sex, sexuality and enthusiastic consent. Oh, and to continue learning about my own body as I explore my sex-blogger super hero, kinky-as-fuck identity.
I tend to describe myself as a baby sex blogger (though I’ve been doing it for a whole year now!) and aspiring sex educator. I’m a queer cis woman in my early twenties who dreams of changing the world with my words. I write about finding my feet in kink, sex, feminism and mental health on this blog, mixing queer, progressive erotica with essays about my depression.
I’m an ethical slut, feminist and sex nerd, who falls in love too easily, runs late for trains, and buys far too many books. I can often be found frequenting independent book shops and wearing cat ears. I never, ever thought I’d be fulfilling my childhood dream of being a writer by writing about sex.
Why write about sex?
Sex is fascinating. The sex education – or rather lack of it – I received growing up meant I spent a long time being scared of not only sex but my own body. It took a long time, a lot of fan-fiction, and the discovery that it is ok to like girls to get me to a place where I was ready to start exploring the fact I might want to have sex.
This means I’m extremely passionate about encouraging others to explore their sexuality, to talk to their partner or partners about sex, and to not feel ashamed of their desires. I also never run out of things to talk about: there’s always a few filthy fantasies floating around my head, as well as a feminist rant or two, and some thoughts about how my mental illness impacts my sex life that I’d like to share.
We live in a world that shames women for having sex, takes ‘straight’ as the default sexuality, and assumes a strict gender binary. With my little corner of the internet, I want to try to normalise female desire and encourage people to talk about sex. I hope that this blog will eventually add, just a little, to the accurate, sex-positive, pleasure-focussed information available for people of all sexualities and genders.
What should you expect here?
To me, words are the most powerful source of arousal, and my erotica is how I explore my kinks and things I might be into. I hope the insights to my filthy imagination I share here will help others start conversations about their own desires. I also review sex toys, rant about feminism, and talk about how mental health intersects with my sex life.
I’m very much still exploring my kinks and figuring out how I want to do relationships. I also have vaginismus, meaning that any kind of vaginal penetration – especially PIV sex – currently seems like an impossible dream. I’m still working on understanding and being comfortable with my body, and I’m also unlearning years of internalised misogyny.
Thus, while I hope my blog will educate, inform and encourage exploration, at its heart it is my journey as I learn and explore. In the last year I’ve learnt how to make myself orgasm, had my first threesome, and attended Eroticon 2018 – the London based sex blogging conference. It is these stories, and many more, that I share here.
Awards and achievements
I’m super proud of since starting my sex blog. I never thought I’d be fulfilling my childhood dream of being a writer by writing about sex, but I now have bylines at The Big Fling, Godemiche, and Girl on the Net.
I spoke at Eroticon, the London-based sex writing conference, in March 2019, where I presented a session called ‘Is representation in erotica dirty?’. I was ranked number twenty on Molly Daily Kiss’ Top 100 Sex Blogs 2018 list. I’m currently a finalist in the UK Blogging Awards 2019 sex blog category.
Blog character cast
Quinn Rhodes – Yours truly, queer sex blogging superhero in training. She/her.
The Doctor – A play partner and close friend. A queer, kinky, polyamorous, intersectional feminist who I would do literally anything for. She/her.
Mr N. – A play partner and primary partner of the Doctor. Perverted sadist who gives excellent aftercare and who I’d love to see in a dress. He/him.
Scottish boy – A former fuck-buddy with whom I was having experimental kinky sex when I started writing my blog in October 2017. Now a dear friend who I annoy by asking questions about their sex life. He/him.
The Writer – A new play partner and a friend-with-flirting-and-fucking. A cruelly playful sadist who I hope to one day see wearing eyeliner when he fucks me. He/him.
The artwork above and to the left was designed and drawn for me by sex-positive illustrator Amy Gardner. Find her at @starboots_ on Twitter. My rainbow-coloured On Queer Street logo was created for me by a friend who appreciates the fact I’m a very kinky perv.
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