A pink 'black trans lives matter' sign is held up at a pride protest. Photo.

On Thursday, a friend messaged me to ask how I was holding up “re the whole JK Rowling clusterfuck”. I looked at their text for a long time before I was able to reply, because even telling them how I felt utterly impossible. I didn’t know how I felt. For the last few weeks I’ve been powered by anger and frustration and a determination to change the world, but right now? Right now I just feel numb. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up.Read More →

A protestor holding up a 'black lives matter' sign. Photo.

Black lives matter, and there is no sexual liberation until BIPOC have sexual liberation. I didn’t want to keep writing about sex this week without acknowledging that BIPOC are the reason we have body positive, sex positive spaces. I know I have a lot of work to do when it comes to learning to be anti-racist, so today I’m taking a break from posting new content to highlight some BIPOC sex educators that any white people reading my blog should follow. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning toRead More →

Boobs with the nipples covered by hands facing a laptop while a white bra has been discarded. Photo.

Patreon: the best way for artists and creators to get sustainable income connect with fans. Unless you create any sort of adult content, of course. Right now Patreon has no problem with me using their platform to help me make audio porn… providing that I don’t link to Patreon from anywhere I also express my sexuality. After almost a month of dealing with this sex-negative censorship, all I want to do is say ‘fuck you Patreon’. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up.Read More →

Closeup of the palm of the hand of a young caucasian person with a transgender flag painted on it, against a pink background. Photo.

Acknowledging your privilege isn’t going to be fun… and that doesn’t mean it’s not extremely important. I’m trying to get better at it. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co.Read More →