Smart phone on duvet cover. Photo.

Before I started working on this blog post draft again, I thought I had answered the sleep or sexting? question that I’d struggled with when I first started writing it. My depression makes it hard enough to get out of bed in the morning as it is, even when I get enough sleep. The logical thing to do for my mental illness is to chose going to bed over late night flirting every time. And yet…Read More →

A photo of someone with short hair and a stripy sweater facing away from the camera and looking up at a concept board of ideas and plans pinned to the wall.

It’s Mental Health Awareness Week (and Mental Health Awareness Month I think?) so obviously I’ve been struggling with my own depression, anxiety and suicidal ideation this week. Mental illness impacts literally every element of my life, and I am still learning how to manage it and take care of myself. Perhaps the most surprising thing that helps is creating sex positive structure in my week. Content note for discussion of mental illness and anti-depressants.Read More →

Image of a girl in hiking gear, including boots and a backpack, sitting down in the rain.

Before I took a week off from writing to concentrate on some non-sex-blogging deadlines, I wrote about my depression – specifically by exploring my mental health through a slightly-strained metaphor. Having submitted my projects and survived that thunderstorm, I realised that I haven’t yet said everything I want to yet. This post talks about my depression and suicidal ideation, but the tone is less dark: today I’m thinking about April showers, not thunderstorms.Read More →

Silhouette of a woman against a blue skin with clouds and pink-gold sunset, holding a scarf above her head that's blowing backwards in the wind.

This isn’t a cry for help, though it is writing-as-therapy. I’d like to be clear that I’m safe: I am coping even though I am struggling. Right now, my depression feels like I’m outside in a thunderstorm and while every rational part of me knows eventually the torrential rain will stop, I’m struggling to believe that the downpour will end. This post talks about suicidal ideation, depression and the darker parts of my mental illness, so please consider this your content warning.Read More →

Today’s Masturbation Monday story is less smut and more a stream of consciousness. I think it has erotic undertones though, and it’s definitely about using sex and submission as a coping mechanism when I’m feeling angry and weak and helpless.Read More →