An afab person wearing boxers uses their fingers to spread the fly of their grey boxers to reveal red lace panties that they're using as a packer. Photo.

I’m having fun exploring my gender presentation. Of course, gender expression doesn’t have to equate gender identity, but since coming out as trans I have been playing with a more masculine gender presentation. I’ve almost entirely given up wearing knickers in favour of boxers – but my knickers have not been entirely discarded. There’s something very gender affirming about packing with lace panties…Read More →

Queergender afab person in blue starry knickers wearing a black strap-on harness with a large blue-green dildo in it. Black and white photo.

Hey y’all, I’m here today to let you into a secret: there’s no such thing as male genitals. Or at least, there’s no single definition for male genitals. Folks with penises do not have male genitalia by default. Folks with vulvas do not necessarily have female genitals. And a genderqueer person with tits might describe their genitals as a clit or a dick, and sometimes change how they refer to their junk mid-sentence.Read More →

An efab person lies on their back on red bedsheets, raspberries on their nipples. Photo.

“Often, we melt into our ecstasies as though they were jams, as though we were sinking into syrupy bowls of gooseberries, of raspberries, of bilberries.” ~ Violette LeducRead More →

Afab person in blue starry knickers wearing a black strap-on harness with a large blue-green dildo in it. Photo.

Wearing a strap-on can be gender affirming and make me feel powerful and sexy… but it can also just about having fun in starry knickers. The last few weeks have been super hard, but they’ve also involved some dancing around my flat, wiggling my dick and giggling.Read More →

Somewhat blurry but still sexy photo of an afab person in purple skinny jeans and a strap-on harness with a large turquoise dildo. Photo.

I may not be at Eroticon this year, but there are traditions to uphold. Traditions like debuting a new pair of jeans at the Friday night Meet and Greet, and carrying dildos around in my handbag all weekend, just in case. I don’t have to be in London this weekend to draw strength from the sex blogging community.Read More →