Category: Polyamory

  • Relationship uncertainty: there’s no happy ever after

    Relationship uncertainty: there’s no happy ever after

    A transmasculine gender non-conforming person and transfeminine non-binary person kissing
    Image from The Gender Spectrum Collection.

    I’m dating someone. I’m in love in a way that I haven’t been before. It’s the kind of love in a way that makes me stronger, the kind of love that I wasn’t looking for when I unexpectedly stumbled into the arms of an incredibly attractive enby who actually likes me back. But in the less fun things that come with navigating my first romantic relationship, I also have to deal with the uncertainty: it’s not that I doubt that they love me – I know they do – but I do know they might not love me forever.

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  • 5 poly relationship words that don’t exist (but I need)

    5 poly relationship words that don’t exist (but I need)

    Two people looking at each other, connected by a messy line around a heart. Graphic.
    Licensed from Adobe.

    In a society that defaults towards monogamy (to say nothing of heteronormativity), I’ve recently been struggling to find the right terminology to describe my ethical-slut dating style and my partners therein. I’m a word nerd, but the poly relationship words I need to talk about the folks I’m dating, fucking and crushing on just don’t exist. Today I’m sharing five non-existing words I’d totally have used in the last week. (more…)