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When they go low, we monetise our pain. I said it a friend back in November: when they go low, we invest in ourselves and get paid to write about the things they hate about us. I meant it as a joke, but for all else 2020 has been it’s been the year when I stepped into my trans identity and I’m really fucking proud of that. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots whileRead More →

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I’m not a woman, but I don’t owe you masculinity to prove that. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co. Not a womanStop using Sarah Everard’s murder as a reason to be transphobicWhat My Dad Wrote A Porno gets wrong about queer historySet your Author Custom HTML Tab Content on your Profile pageRead More →

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Last week I wrote about how exhausting it is to be a trans person right now. I wrote about fear and anger and sadness and burn out and feeling numb. I’m really glad I wrote that post, but writing it – and some of the conversations that writing it sparked – reminded me that I can’t explain my gender in one word, or even in a simple sentence. My gender identity is changing all the time as I explore it, and I love that. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about hisRead More →

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“If you’re a woman of colour, a hijabi in the West, not heterosexual or cisgender, or live with a disability, literally every waking moment is patriarchy smashing.” ~ Burnout, Emily and Amelia Nagoski Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co. Not a womanStop using Sarah Everard’s murder as a reason to be transphobicWhat My Dad WroteRead More →

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My Send Noods boxers are the only reason I got out of bed today. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co. Not a womanStop using Sarah Everard’s murder as a reason to be transphobicWhat My Dad Wrote A Porno gets wrong about queer historySet your Author Custom HTML Tab Content on your Profile pageRead More →

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Periods aren’t gross, but I still don’t feel sexy when I’m wearing period pads. I don’t avoid period sex because I get super horny when I’m menstruating, but I do find it much harder to get out of my own head. As Lingerie is for Everyone is all about embracing your body and your underwear, today I’m going to talk about fucking while wearing period pads. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while fallingRead More →