Tag: vaginismus

  • Review: The Butters Hygienics Aloe x Shea lube

    Review: The Butters Hygienics Aloe x Shea lube

    A pot of lube with a turquoise wrapper around it, plus a load of stickers, sits on a yellow sofa. Photo.

    I love reviewing sex toys, but sometimes I forget how bad I am at it until I sit in front of my laptop and I’m expected to fill the screen with my thoughts. Sometimes it’s easy and I can talk about cissexist marketing or how I tested them by squatting over my bed and peeing on my feet, and sometimes I’m left with nothing to say but FUCK THIS IS AWESOME AND YOU SHOULD PUT IT ON YOUR JUNK. In case you can’t tell, this is how I feel about the organic, oil-based Aloe x Shea lube that The Butters Hygienics sent me to review.

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  • 21 things I learned about sex at 21

    21 things I learned about sex at 21

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    Valentine’s day is a Big Deal for sex writers and sex bloggers, but I traditionally celebrate a different significant day on 14th February. I know I still have a lot to learn – about myself and about sex – and I know half the things I want from sex and relationships right now will undoubtedly change, but I am proud of what I have learned about sex so far. So today I’m (consensually!) stealing an idea from my birthday twin, Kelvin Sparks, and sharing 21 things I learned about sex at 21.

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  • Let’s talk things I’m still scared of: STI tests

    Let’s talk things I’m still scared of: STI tests

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    I have a confession: I don’t go for STI tests every three months like a model non-monogamous sex educator should. It’s not about the shame or stigma around being a sexually active woman or having a positive STI status, I’m mostly scared of STI tests because they hurt. Maybe I shouldn’t share this, but right now I’m really struggling with my vagina.

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  • Confession: I was still learning about my cunt in 2019

    Confession: I was still learning about my cunt in 2019

    Fingers in grapefruit, which looks like a vulva, on a red background. Photo.
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    I have a confession, folks: I’m a sex blogger who was still learning about her own cunt in 2019. Maybe that’s not surprising, given the lack of sufficient sex education in this country, but I’m still hugely embarrassed to share that I am still scared of my own vulva. And I feel ashamed to admit that, as someone who spends as much time as I do talking and writing about sex.

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  • The Vagina Museum opening: vagina isn’t a dirty word

    The Vagina Museum opening: vagina isn’t a dirty word

    Shot of the interior of the Vagina Museum. Photo.
    Photo by Angus Young.

    I never wish I lived in (or closer to) London more than when there are brilliant sex positive events happening that I can’t make it to – like the opening of the Vagina Museum tomorrow! Its first exhibition opens to the public this weekend and I’d love to be joining my sex blogging friends there tomorrow.

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