Model of the internal clitoris lying on a blue fabric background. Photo.

At the end of March, my wanking from home was focussed on helping me find sex fun again and reconnect with my body. I’m no longer doing scheduled masturbation session, but I am definitely getting off more than I was at the start of 2020. However, while I’ve put time and effort into cultivating and nurturing my sex drive, I still tend towards low-effort wanking positions. We’re now in May and still in lockdown, so I challenged myself to do a sex- periment and put some more effort into my masturbation.Read More →

A transmasculine gender-nonconforming person caressing the face of a transfeminine non-binary person. Photo.

I am a queer, trans, afab person with vaginismus who doesn’t have penis-in-vagina sex: according to society’s traditional definitions of sex, I’m a virgin. Let’s set aside the fact that virginity is a social concept used to control and shame women and afab folks. Instead, let’s discuss about why foreplay is a heteronormative idea that devalues vulvalic pleasure, centralises penis-in-vagina sex, and implies that the ‘aim’ of sex is the male orgasm.Read More →

A grapefruit half with the tip of a banana pushing into the middle - implying penetration. Photo.

I’m a sex blogger, but I hesitate to describe myself as a sex educator. I’d like to be a sex educator, but I don’t feel like that’s a title I can claim because I simply don’t know enough. I’m a huge sex nerd, of course, and I spend a lot of time thinking and reading and asking questions about sex, but there’s so much that I don’t know… including some things about my own body, like whether or not I can have anal sex with vaginismus.Read More →

A close up of a woman's wet cunt, with a string of arousal going from her clit to her finger. Photo.

May is Masturbation Month, so I’ve set myself the challenge of writting some erotica that is focussed on jerking off rather than fucking. Solo sex is – after all – just as valid a way to access pleasure, have fun, or relieve boredom as getting dicked down is, and today’s smut is a more-or-less fictional story about nostalgic wanks and how hot it can be to get worked up over someone you’re no longer fucking.Read More →

A shelf full of sex and kink books, with a small circular mirror in the middle, reflecting an afab person's crotch which they're holding a red dildo up to. Photo.

These are not the uncensored shelves of a sex nerd, but they are unfiltered and thus meet the requirements of Molly’s fiendishly difficult Sinful Sunday prompt for May. In reality, my books on sex and kink are not all arranged on one shelf but found scattered around my room arranged due to height and colour and author more frequently than subject matter.Read More →