A black and red leather flogger lies on a pink background. Photo.

If you asked me to describe my relationship with impact play, I’d tell you that I’m a pain slut with a low pain tolerance. I like getting spanked, but I can’t take as much pain as I’d like to take. The idea of pain is sometimes hotter to me than the pain itself, and I frequently feel like a fraud when I tell people that spanking is one of my biggest kinks. I do love being spanked, but I often have safe-word out sooner than I feel I ‘should’. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. Heā€™s a sex nerd withRead More →

A woman lies on her back on the sofa, wearing stripy black and grey tights. Photo.

Are tights sexy? I think anything can be sexy if it makes youĀ feel sexy, and today these tights make me feel extremely powerful. They might by knitted and stripy but when I wear them I feel strong and a little bit like a witch. AndĀ that is definitely sexy. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. Heā€™s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co.Read More →

Close up of a white guy with a beard and a black enby kissing. Photo.

The other night I pulled on a shirt that smelled of sweat and sex and realised that I finally had a setting for my bi cis guy and queer trans guy orgasm denial scene. Or more accurately, what fun it would be to play with the morning after that scene, when one of them still really wants an orgasm but can’t resist teasing their dom anyway by wearing his shirt. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. Heā€™s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearingRead More →

Back view of a woman with beautiful long hair raising hands up while standing against blue wall. Photo.

I’m noisy in bed. Ok, not just in bed: partners have teased me in the past for making similar sounds while eating sushi to getting eaten out. While nothing sounds like the giggle I make when someone touches my clit in just the right way, they’re not wrong. I am very vocal in my pleasure. Recently I’ve found something new that makes me make sex sounds – though to me itĀ is sex. I want them to touch my back. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. Heā€™s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuckRead More →

A transmasculine gender non-conforming person and transfeminine non-binary person kissing

I’m dating someone. I’m in love in a way that I haven’t been before. It’s the kind of love in a way that makes me stronger, the kind of love that I wasn’t looking for when I unexpectedly stumbled into the arms of an incredibly attractive enby who actually likes me back. But in the less fun things that come with navigating my first romantic relationship, I also have to deal with the uncertainty: it’s not that I doubt that they love me – I know they do – but I do know they might not love me forever. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is aRead More →

A purple silicone vibrator sits on a hand. Photo.

I am a huge fan of Rocks-Off’s toys – after all, one of their vibrators gave me my first solo orgasm! – and was delighted to get my hands on the Zeppelina at Eroticon last March. I’d previously admired the steam punk designs of the Dr Rocco’s Pleasure Emporium toys, and the Zeppelina looked like a potentially powerful vibrator that I definitely wanted to play with. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. Heā€™s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while fallingRead More →