Category: January Jumpstart 2020

  • Relationship uncertainty: there’s no happy ever after

    Relationship uncertainty: there’s no happy ever after

    A transmasculine gender non-conforming person and transfeminine non-binary person kissing
    Image from The Gender Spectrum Collection.

    I’m dating someone. I’m in love in a way that I haven’t been before. It’s the kind of love in a way that makes me stronger, the kind of love that I wasn’t looking for when I unexpectedly stumbled into the arms of an incredibly attractive enby who actually likes me back. But in the less fun things that come with navigating my first romantic relationship, I also have to deal with the uncertainty: it’s not that I doubt that they love me – I know they do – but I do know they might not love me forever.

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  • Review: Dr Rocco’s Pleasure Emporium Zeppelina

    Review: Dr Rocco’s Pleasure Emporium Zeppelina

    A purple silicone vibrator sits on a hand. Photo.

    I am a huge fan of Rocks-Off’s toys – after all, one of their vibrators gave me my first solo orgasm! – and was delighted to get my hands on the Zeppelina at Eroticon last March. I’d previously admired the steam punk designs of the Dr Rocco’s Pleasure Emporium toys, and the Zeppelina looked like a potentially powerful vibrator that I definitely wanted to play with.

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  • Angry sex where she takes it out on my arse

    Angry sex where she takes it out on my arse

    A woman lies on the floor naked, her arse pointing towards the camera. Photo.
    Photo by Little Switch Bitch, used with permission.

    I had a lot of fun with this one, which I wrote with one of my biggest 2020 writing goals in mind: writing more explicitly queer erotica. In terms of this piece about angry sex, it means a queer cis woman and a gay trans woman exploring some delicious degradation together, which may or may not be reflective of some of my current fantasies.

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  • Sex goals for 2020: dominance and dating apps

    Sex goals for 2020: dominance and dating apps

    Hands writing in a 2020 new year notebook with list of goals and a coffee cup. Photo.
    Image licensed through Adobe.

    This time last year, I wrote a post about my kink goals for 2019, which included bruises, butt stuff, and a birthday spanking. Given how embarrassingly ambitious I was with those, I wasn’t going to set any sex goals for 2020… until I realised that subconsciously I had set myself goals, and it would be silly not to share them.

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  • Confession: I was still learning about my cunt in 2019

    Confession: I was still learning about my cunt in 2019

    Fingers in grapefruit, which looks like a vulva, on a red background. Photo.
    Image licensed through Adobe.

    I have a confession, folks: I’m a sex blogger who was still learning about her own cunt in 2019. Maybe that’s not surprising, given the lack of sufficient sex education in this country, but I’m still hugely embarrassed to share that I am still scared of my own vulva. And I feel ashamed to admit that, as someone who spends as much time as I do talking and writing about sex.

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