Category: Vaginismus

  • Fluid proof sheets and needing to pee during penetration

    Fluid proof sheets and needing to pee during penetration

    A lube-drawn heart and vaginal dilator sit on fluid proof sheet between someone's thighs. Black and white photo.
    Photo by me, getting ready for adventures with the Sheets of San Francisco fluid proof sheet!

    Today I’m super excited to share today’s post with y’all, and – if I’m being totally honest – I’m super proud that I got my hands on a set of Sheets of San Francisco fluid proof sheets to review! It’s a review-with-a-twist, of course, because right now I’m having fun approaching sex toys from unconventional perspective because I can’t use them in the ‘traditional’ way because of my vaginismus.

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  • My first finger fucking happened through red knickers

    My first finger fucking happened through red knickers

    Two fingers in a grapefruit isolated on a blue background. Photo
    Image licensed through Adobe.

    I’m so behind right now – not only with my blogging (I have so many filthy and feminist-y things to share with y’all), but with life admin, self-care, household tasks, and my uni work. This has been written while I hide in blankets and ignore the fact that I probably need to be focussing on so-called “more important” things. Because after all, it’s important to tell you about my first finger fucking.

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  • Oops, I think I accidentally made PIV sex into a big deal

    Oops, I think I accidentally made PIV sex into a big deal

    Six line-drawn couples in various sex positions. Graphic.
    Image licensed from Adobe.

    Reading a casual-fuck-partner’s old texts on a Smutathon wank break (less fun than a Smutathon fuck break, but more practical for a day of writing in the library) left me thinking about his dick. And my desire to one day sit on his dick, despite my vaginismus. But why is that particular sex act so intriguing: penis-in-vagina sex isn’t a big deal, right?

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  • Putting things inside me

    Putting things inside me

    Two fingers on book on bed, symbolising a vagina being touched. Photo.
    Image licensed through Adobe.

    I was thinking about my vaginismus over the weekend, and found this erotica piece half-finished in my drafts folder. The idea of a dominant, particularly one in a nurturing, care-giving role in our dynamic, helping me use dilators to help me work on putting things inside my vagina is hot, especially they also use orgasm control to motivate me.

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