Sharing sex positive shit: February 2020

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February has been a month of missing really good blog posts. Sex blogging Twitter has been even busier than usual with Feb Photo Fest, and my mental illness has been kicking my arse this month, so I had to dig a little deeper to find some brilliant sex positive shit to share with y’all from February 2020.

As always, titles are links – please click away and give these amazing bloggers some love.

Cara Theron – A Window Inside

I don’t spend as much time reading Cara’s work as I should: she’s a powerful and evocative writer, and often makes me confront things about myself that I’d rather not face. I related hugely to parts of this post, where she talks about feeling invisible and also about how she’s trying to see herself more. And she’s right: therapy is magical and/or eye-opening.

“Often times, when I say I feel invisible, I mean I don’t feel seen or valued by those people I want to be attracted to me. What even is the source of that vulnerability? That need to be seen and viewed as desirable, wanted, delightful?”

The Wench Works – The Wench Reviews: Palm Grease Lube

Confession time: I don’t always love reading other sex blogger’s reviews. Reading this one was a delight, however, partly because I can hear Wendy’s voice in every sentence, and the whole post is deliciously sensual. I’m also into the way she approach the review, from a point of wanting to expand her horizons. I definitely need to try out some new lubes.

“I mean, it was only a matter of time until my “let me culture myself” expanded to my sex life; and I mean it’s about damn time. If I can try a new food, I can try a new lube.”

Girly Juice – Let’s Normalize Lube in Sexual Media!

Ooh, a post featuring my favourite character from Netflix’s Sex Education! I was as surprised as Kate Sloan by lube being discussed in a mainstream piece of media, and her post highlights that it shouldn’t be that unusual – we need to normalise lube. We don’t talk enough about lube, which means lots of folks don’t know that they can use it during sex or masturbation.

“This time, it’s the character Lily on my favorite show of the moment, Netflix’s Sex Education. “I’ll bring the condoms,” she says, while negotiating an upcoming sex-date. “You bring the lube.””

Exposing 40 – Cigarettes After Sex

Exposing 40 probably doesn’t know how much she inspires me – to live a life that’s authentically me and to take more photos! I love so many of her Feb Photo Fest photos, but my favourite has to be this album-cover recreation featuring The Other Livvy. This one is utterly gorgeous and definitely gives me some sexy-smoking feels!

“It was only as I started reminiscing about all the excellent post fuck fags I’ve had in tents and fields and manky student bedrooms and lying on lawns of stately houses during May balls…”

Molly’s Daily Kiss – Dirty Bum

Molly’s photos are always incredible, but this one really spoke to me. Part of why this photo captures my attention so acutely are the mud splatters – it feels so real in a messy, imperfect way that I love seeing in erotic photography. The light and shadow’s on Molly’s skin are beautiful, and this photo makes me want to reach out and touch her (with her consent!).

“Yes [the photo] has lost some of the depth and the vibrancy of those pure white flowers in the foreground but it has bought the focus of the image more onto me and my dirty bum!”

Queer and Confused – Transphobia in Sex Blogging

In this month’s Smutlancer spotlight is Quenby, shining a spotlight on the transphobia in the sex blogging community. As they say, this isn’t a sexy read, but it’s a post that needed to be written and I’m so happy that they did write it and share it. If you haven’t read it yet, I urge you to go and do so – especially if you’re a cis sex blogger.

“How do people respond if we do speak up about transphobia? When one of us uses even the gentlest language to call out repeated misgendering, people attack them for being aggressive and hurting the person who denies their identity.”

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1 Comment

  1. Aww thank you for selecting that picture. Snowdrops and dirty bum for the win.

    Molly

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