Three speech bubble hearts, each depicting a different kinky love language: one with a phone with an unread audio message, one with the date of a hospital appointment circled in a calendar; one with someone with a dick peeing on someone's face. Artwork.

I hadn’t heard of love languages until I got involved in the sex blogging community. If you haven’t either, the basic idea is that we all have ways that we like to both give and receive affection, and these fall into five categories: acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch and receiving gifts. While I admit that I’ve never taken the test to work out what mine are, I can tell you about some of my kinky love languages. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures inRead More →

A luxurious hotel room bed with plump pillows, purple sheets and a thick strap-on dildo. Artwork.

A recently kinky adventure confirmed something that previous hotel stays had only confirmed: hotel sex is fucking brilliant. But while there are many delightfully filthy highlights from my first adventures in hotel sex, what I really remember are all the sounds. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit content on trans inclusivity, check out whatsinyourpants.co.Read More →

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Want to know how to support your local queer, disabled, student sex blogger? (That’s me, by the way!) I’m back with another Clit Bait listicle to kick off my Smutathon writing today, talking about ways that you can support my work – and how it really means the world to me when you do so. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearing stomp-on-the-patriarchy boots while falling in love every time he fucks. For his less explicit contentRead More →

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In a society that defaults towards monogamy (to say nothing of heteronormativity), I’ve recently been struggling to find the right terminology to describe my ethical-slut dating style and my partners therein. I’m a word nerd, but the poly relationship words I need to talk about the folks I’m dating, fucking and crushing on just don’t exist. Today I’m sharing five non-existing words I’d totally have used in the last week. Quinn RhodesQuinn Rhodes (he/him) is a queer, trans, disabled sex blogger. He’s a sex nerd with vaginismus who writes about his adventures in learning to fuck without fucking up. Quinn can usually be found wearingRead More →