Three speech bubble hearts, each depicting a different kinky love language: one with a phone with an unread audio message, one with the date of a hospital appointment circled in a calendar; one with someone with a dick peeing on someone's face. Artwork.

I hadn’t heard of love languages until I got involved in the sex blogging community. If you haven’t either, the basic idea is that we all have ways that we like to both give and receive affection, and these fall into five categories: acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch and receiving gifts. While I admit that I’ve never taken the test to work out what mine are, I can tell you about some of my kinky love languages.Read More →

A luxurious hotel room bed with plump pillows, purple sheets and a thick strap-on dildo. Artwork.

A recently kinky adventure confirmed something that previous hotel stays had only confirmed: hotel sex is fucking brilliant. But while there are many delightfully filthy highlights from my first adventures in hotel sex, what I really remember are all the sounds.Read More →

Two people looking at each other, connected by a messy line around a heart. Graphic.

In a society that defaults towards monogamy (to say nothing of heteronormativity), I’ve recently been struggling to find the right terminology to describe my ethical-slut dating style and my partners therein. I’m a word nerd, but the poly relationship words I need to talk about the folks I’m dating, fucking and crushing on just don’t exist. Today I’m sharing five non-existing words I’d totally have used in the last week.Read More →